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April 1, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

Thrive

Thrive

Sometimes in life you get a wee boost of something that inspires. When a copy of Arianna Huffington’s book – Thrive, dropped on to my mat a couple of Saturdays ago, courtesy of Random House Group (humble thanks to Neil Morrison (@neilmorrison on Twitter) – I suspect you know what you were doing… damn you!) – I was making a cuppa and had about half an hour to spare…. I started flicking through the book and ended up tucked up reading for over an hour (apologies to my mate Liz – I was late for good reason, honest!)

The basic premise is this: we are mostly operating in a world where success is defined through money and status. This brings about emptiness, stress and burnout. It means we are encouraged to spend our lives striving for money or getting one over on others. We end up divided and filled with compromise as work & life are seen as binary and non-inclusive…..In this particular reality – we battle ourselves and each other. Not. Too. Smart.

Huffington’s solution is to offer a third metric – a way to measure success in terms of your Wellbeing, your Wisdom, your ability to Wonder and if this can be underpinned by generosity and giving? Well, then we start occupying a less selfish state of being. She is not saying you don’t need money or don’t pursue status – what she seems to be saying is those things alone might make you wealthy, but not healthy or wise.

Let’s be clear about this: I’m not overly fond of her politics and I may still hold a question mark over her early position on the feminist movement (she wasn’t a huge fan), so I watch her with suspicion. Nevertheless, something happened to me when I read Arianna Huffington’s words about what it is to be a person, a successful thriving human being, in the modern world and the organisations we construct around us…..

Guess what? It spoke to me.

Yes. I mentally argued with her. My inner teenager pulled the whole “well, it’s alright for you, love, with your millions, your uber-successful business & your contacts. On you go with the mindfulness and the “Slow down. Switch off your technology. Sleep.” message… if I had your pension, I’d be feeling easier.”

“Oh. And BTW Mrs Huffington Post – the irony of you, online 24 hour news content woman, telling me to switch off my tech is not lost. I see you, Lady. It’s not that simple.”

And yet.. oh and yet.. when I read a similar line in the Evening Standard on a train to Brighton last week, I found myself mentally defending what she had written. …

because the core of the book is something important: a call to ourselves. A call to pay attention to all that is to be nurtured, prized and regarded in our lives and our actions. It is an invitation to discuss the maddening things we do to ourselves and each other in organisations when we forget that people are people – uniquely built, beautifully flawed, trying really really hard to get stuff done and do stuff right and fight for their families and way of living.

Yes – Huffington pulls in tales from the great and the good – captains of industry, editors of global magazines, the occasional superstar – but those are her circles. She moves thus.

The point, if you get underneath the shiny stuff, is not only that we need a different discourse in organisations and our lives (one that includes looking after ourselves, being good to those around us, recognising when we need to rest, to eat, to exercise, to be with people who we love and who cherish us) but that this discourse is actually happening.

Example after example – Mindfulness in this organisation, making this % difference to the Healthcare costs. Improve working environments – this leads to reduced stress and fewer mental health issues in for workforce. The benefits of upping your Oxytocin ( the love hormone) over flooding your body with cortisol ( hello stress hormone).

Underneath the shiny? I’d say she has Backed. It. Up.

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At times, I felt the irritation of being in the realms of “statements of the bleeding obvious” – until I reminded myself that, obvious or not, we don’t actually pay attention and do this stuff often enough – and Yes, HR & OD people – I’m looking firmly at you in all of this.. we are in prime position to sort benefits, wellbeing methodologies and tub thump for the good of the folk we are meant to be cheering for. I’ve grown tired of seeing knackered, burnt out, change weary people who commute forever and live in a state of constant guilt about their kids, their health, their lives. We KNOW this. We KNOW how to look after ourselves and each other. How about we try? How about we set the permission to work flexibly, for sleep to be vital and for thinking time to be as essential as doing time?  OK.. I’ll get off my soapbox.. but this is partly what reading it did to me.

It’s not the best book I have ever read… it sure as hell isn’t the worst and in a world of sodding “Thought Leaders” espousing threories about single topics, I’ll take this whole-person, mind/body/spirit approach every single time.

I recognise a call to resource ourselves. In a rapidly changing, hi tech “WTF is going on NOW?” world, something in here speaks to the heart of who we are – wide-eyed children, filled with potential for wisdom, wonder and generosity who need to be nurtured, cherished and challenged.

Read the book. Let it annoy you or inspire you, but read it.

Then read around it – look at the stuff you dismiss and see if you truly disagree. And try some stuff – breathing, stretching, sleeping with a little less guilt…see where that takes you.

Because in the realm of big-brained single themed “This Is How You Do It” thought leadership – I suspect Ms Huffington has touched on just the sort of complex, whole-system thinking we might actually need.

March 9, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

Whispers and Shouts

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I wonder.

I wonder if I can be quietly powerful in this world.

I wonder if I have to shout.

I wonder…. Can I move situations on without fuss or ego?

Can I understand the system and whisper into it compellingly?

Can I invite you to listen to me?

Can I stir quietly?

Is it possible to elicit change without a maelstrom of noise and indignation and tub-thumping and right-ness?

Can I change a mind through a calm conversation?

If I work with quiet precision and care, can I craft something new and beautiful?

Can I laugh you into submission?

 

 

Or must I project myself?

Make my presence felt?

Command the room?

Make a noise?

Demand you hear my story?

Must I put myself in the story?

Yell for change?

Work with vigour and energy and determination  and heat?

Must I rage against the machine?

Shake the system?

Beat the drum?

Must I be hell for leather, all in , no stopping me now?

 

If I whisper, you must move closer to me..

If I shout, you will move further away…

 

In a room full of people, scrabbling to be heard, tell me….

Can a whisper be as powerful as a shout?

February 14, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

The Thing That is A Bit Ugly

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I have a coach. I’m a firm believer in do as you would be done by.

I believe part of keeping any business sharp (and unhelpful assumptions checked) is to work with someone who offers a different perspective on the thinking and actions being played out. I have to believe that, or I couldn’t do my job.

Or rather, I have to believe that.. It IS my job.

My coach challenges me in ways that often surprise. I think of myself as a fairly self aware, flexible, open person, so when she asks me something and I feel myself get defensive and stubborn, I’m constantly bemused: oh. Here is an edge. This is the limit of my thinking and my flexibility… Wow… Who knew?
And it plays out in me like this: No. I don’t think that way. No. I don’t want to reconsider, thank you… Can we move on? Ooh look! A shiny thing!

Of course I recognise this is discomfort. I have generated it many times in my own clients, found their edge, invited a rethink or a reframe only to be snapped at or neatly diverted elsewhere. What I love about working with Jo is she sticks with the tough questions. She lets me snap and wriggle and divert and throw up shiny stories. Then she quietly leads me back to the Thing that is a Bit Ugly.

Sometimes The Thing is so ugly it scares me and I can’t bear to be near it. Sometimes, The Thing just kind of smells a bit off and I wrinkle my nose at having to hanging out with it. Sometimes, just sometimes, it is so ugly I just need to laugh…..

But like a horror movie that terrified me when I was a kid, when I come back to the ugly thing, it is rarely as scary as I think it will be. Like all bad smells, if I just tackle it, open the windows and deal with the stink, it vanishes pretty quickly…. And then I can breathe in fresh air and my world is a little prettier…..

Working with a team this week, I kept bringing them back to the ugly thing. The unsaid. The unshiny. The stinky. They did what I do with Jo…. They snapped and wriggled and diverted. Eventually? Someone got brave and began to acknowledge the ugly thing…. Then someone noticed “this stinks” and team windows were opened and the room wasn’t quite so stifling anymore… As a team, they made a pretty big shift.

My point is this… Don’t be too afraid of your ugly. There is a good chance someone else won’t actually recognise it as that terrifying* and perhaps it is not that ugly after all. When you find your edge?… When it seems ugly and so stinky it is taking your breath away? Try not to close the door and let it fester.

It strikes me that The Thing that is a Bit Ugly might just be beautiful after all….

 

* My brother cannot understand how I can possibly still be scared of the movie Poltergeist. There were Killer Toy Clowns under the bed. He knows Nothing.

January 31, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

Learning more about L&D Connect – 20th Feb, Edinburgh

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Bringing the L&D Connect Unconference North is an experiment.

Last January, I went to an L&D Connect Event in London. It was organised by a group of Practitioners, Freelancers and Consultants who wanted to create somewhere for Learning and Development or Organisational Development Professionals to have the time and space to discuss the issues that matter most to them and their organisations. Sukh Pabial (@sukhpabial) describes the aims and intentions perfectly here.

I was invited by David Goddin (@ChangeContinuum)  part of the organising team and whose judgement I trust wholeheartedly. So I was curious.

I hadn’t experienced an Unconference before. Really? You can have a conference without formal speakers? Without a programme, a rigid timetable and a slightly awkward “informal networking” experience over instant coffee; whilst balancing your Conference timetable & bag of promotional leaflets? Really? This can happen?

Turns out yes, it can.  I walked into a room of around 50 people, with my beloved colleague, Ruth Maughan (who is not a social media user – a subsequent short #GetRuthOnTwitter campaign followed after the event) and I was greeted by warmth. People talking.  People who “knew” people from Twitter – “Oh Hello – YOU are @fuchsia_blue? Good  to meet you – I recognise you from your Twitter avatar” and people who were saying (like Ruth) I don’t use Social Media, or not that much but I’m interested in knowing more and interested in what an Unconference is…

And that was enough, somehow. People turned up because they were curious, or they wanted time to reflect, or they were seeking some new ideas or insights, or they wanted to network more widely. It wasn’t a place for Promoting My Stuff. It wasn’t a place to broadcast “The Big Idea” – it was a place to be curious – to ask questions, debate, layout different maps of the field we operate in as Professionals and start to compare territories.

There was a process – a rhythm to the session – a welcome, a hello and what would you like out of this? There was a big screen with the Twitter feed running, so we could interact with connections beyond the room and we could tweet out against the #ldcu hashtag.

Yes. There were post it notes – and fat pens and an invitation to draw or write and capture what was going on. There was debate. Challenge to thinking. Camaraderie. The inside view on a few bits of organisational life that were imperfect and real. Mainly – we talked about learning and developing people. We talked about the need for it, the craft of it, the difficulties it throws up organisationally, the innovative stuff we do to help create it, the banging-our-heads-off-tables moments we experience when it is done truly badly.

I left with a bunch of good contacts ( first time I had met Jon Bartlett @projectLibero in real life – this year, we are working together. First time I met @PhilWilcox in real life – last October, we ran an afternoon session on Intent v Impact to a group of new leaders). I left with new insights. I left with the experience of being at an Unconference and the experience of a World Cafe Process, skilfully facilitated. I left beginning to understand how the use of Social Media can really enhance an event – and how opening up those back channels ( check me with the parlance!) means a whole wide audience can be involved in what is happening in one little room.

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And I return to my original statement:

Bringing the L&D Connect Unconference North is an experiment.

I’m part of a team who are seeing what happens if we run an event like this in Scotland. We don’t think such a thing currently exists and the curiosity that drew us to the London events is burning away nicely.

L&D Connect as an Unconference & Social Network runs in London and on Twitter and on Linkedin and blogs & attracts a pretty UK-wide audience. It’s not for profit & is designed purely as a networking/ learning event. It’s proving a powerful connector and source of information for Practitioners. We want to see if such a thing can exist and blossom, outwith The Big Smoke – not in a huge political statement way – but simply we acknowledge that the rhythm and pace  and practicalities of getting folk together outside London is different, yet  the needs of Practitioners is probably pretty aligned … so what can be done to allow those needs to be talked about…?  Can L&D Connect be a good vehicle? I believe actions often speak louder than words –  so let’s see.

I was asked a couple of questions on email the other day and I wrote:

“The emphasis, once we get it established a bit more, will be on getting L&D/ OD folk to experiment with formats like World Cafe, AI, Fishbowl, Petcha Kutcha – the stuff we hear about as practitioners, and might use…. but through experiencing them and reflecting on the process at the same time as we are talking about our field of expertise, gives the experience  a deeper resonance ( if that’s not too bullsh*t facilitator)

What underpins it all is the encouragement to use social media – to Tweet and take photos & blog & curate ideas on storify or Vimeo etc afterward to share the learning in the room with a much wider L&D network, connected virtually to the going-s on of the day ( again – a good way to experiment with how this might work in an organisation, or as a freelancer, at an event).

 So it’s meant to be a chance for folk who have tons of different experience and how feel they want to experiment, to have a voice and a play.

Right now, though, we are looking for early adopters who’ll give it a go and promote it further. Again – it’s categorically not deisgned to be a profiteering exercise.”

People Making it happen:

I”ve already mentioned Sukh and David.. and I’ll be there in the room, along with Jose Franca, OD Consultant from Chevron (@MrAirMiles on twitter) and digital archivist and all round nimble Social Media expert, Martin Couzins (@MartinCouzins) from LearnPatch and Co-Founder of L&D Connect joining the facilitation team – which means we will have an excellent record of the day. Enormous Thanks also to Tash Stallard @stirthesource for adding her own brand of magic and practicality to proceedings

So here is the invitation:

If you can come:

Buy your ticket here while you can:

Be  there - you can tell us if you love it or hate it…

Bring  good, solid ideas  and opinions with you.

Bring your Phone or Tablet and a charger and be fine with having moments of “phone-face” as you Tweet out  from a discussion if you wish to.

Be prepared to disagree, share stories, ask questions, experiment with who you talk to and enjoy.

Sign up to the L&D Connect group on Linkedin and join the Twitter chat at 8am on Fridays on the #ldinsight hashtag.

Bring your reflections afterwards.

you might even want to join us set up the next one for October.

If you can’t come ( and I must take the responsibility for organising it during half term – I got my facts all muddled).

Please join the #LDCU hashtag during the day on 20th Feb Tweet us to say hello.

Ask us questions via social media.

Offer to help out on the @LnDConnect Twitter account, or curate from a distance.

If you have been to an L&D Connect Unconference, Comment here or on Linkedin and Twitter and say how it was for you.

We’ll run a Twitter Chat on 10th February on the Hashtag #ScotLanDConnect – join us there if you want to know more.

January 15, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

Working The Gap

Reading Sukh Pabial’s Blog  (@sukhPabial) post today, I thought it might be a good invitation to have a go at answering his “what am I for?” question.

I’m not getting existential in particular… It’s just I have been in a number of very good conversations of late about what this OD malarkey might be. I guess I’m also turning my mind to the upcoming  first Scottish L&D Connect event & sorting out my blog post for the next version of Humane Resourced where I’ll be writing more about my experience of working in an OD context (Hello to David D’Souza @dds180) .

I keep coming back to a drawing I sketched in Loudon’s bakery in Edinburgh, whilst talking with the deeply fabulous Julie Ashworth of Broadreach Consulting as we were processing out what we had just done..

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This isn’t the original sketch – more of a distillation, following other conversations. On the left, I had the current reality – where the organisation is now. From here – questions form about what strategy and direction are you looking to move out from?

On the right is kind of where you land organisationally. You can see it as new world if you’re that way inclined. I’m less linear and fixed than that – I  see the other side as being shifting sands.

Which ever your metaphorical frame of preference, for me the OD work is in the gap. It’s working with the grey, unstructured, unnamed, nebulous stuff. We use structures ( Org charts, setting values, mapping internal brand, developing staff) to help us name and understand that gap, but essentially, every day we work with the predictable and the unexpected to move the core people part of the organisation from the Now to the Soon.

To be in OD is to have a grasp of HR and the technicalities ( legally, financially and politically) of change; it is to be future-focussed enough to look at the skills development and future-workforce needs through both a Learning and a Development perspective and crucially, it is to be able to articulate and argue for these; it is to have the PR and Internal Comms skills that ensures the organisation has good, clear communications to define a way for getting through that Gap. It is to hold the lack of ego to require the Big Recognition, but enough ego to know just how good you are in the face of constant questioning (And friends. You need friends internally and externally…but I’d argue that’s a fact of organisational life irrespective of which function you hang out in..)

My trope is that change happens in conversation – It’s part of what I truly came to understand through working with Ashridge – You’ll hear me say that a lot when you work with me.  This being the case, OD practitioners can’t control or predict every single conversation or outcome in an organisation – but they can set the parameters around that Gap and set good environments for conversations to happen ( even if the conversations are tough or unpleasant). They can understand the importance and significance of dialogue. They understand the importance of giving people time to process, contribute and reflect on what is happening around and to them

In this line of work, you dance in a whole world of don’t knows – you can make assertions that some stuff is likely, try to write the algarithm , ponder on the bell curve and  take calculated action, knowing that certain outcomes will mostly hold to be true… and then find yourself in a face-palm moment when the person who is One Down From God upsets it all at the staff meeting where she/he makes a snarky remark.

What am I for?  I’m for good, honest conversations about what is necessary and possible in organisations.

I’m for bringing practitioners together to have the sorts of dialogue and conversations that help us define and work in that damned lovely gap.

and I’m all for working to brighten up the grey.

The first Scottish L&D Connect Unconference will run on 20th February in Central Edinburgh. 

January 3, 2014 / Julie@fuchsiablue

Vive La Resolution

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I don’t make New Years Resolutions any more

Maybe it’s an age thing – I feel I have had more than my fair share of New-Year new-Start-buy-the-fitness-video; sign up to thiswillmakeyouskinnier.com, lock the wine up, research healthy eating, business-boosting, agree to be emailed “say yes-to-You” confidence boosting tips that are guaranteed to make my life better..

Been there. Done that.  Found no actual joy there.

On the one hand, I’m still just as podgy, as adoring of a good glass of Malbec, as likely to choose actual cheese over the low fat cottage stuff, as anxious about work, as good & bad at staying in touch with beloved friends and family, as hard wired to need to swim or run or be outdoors as I have been for most of my adult life….  I am resolutely as I am.

On the other hand, I have a sense of a change in myself, of pushing to have more options around me; in having some choice in how I respond to lifestuff and where I put my time and my oh so precious energy… I am resolutely flexible and curious.

Last year was a bruiser for me… and for many others I know… what the rather rough-ride that was 2013 offered me was certainly opportunities to test my own resilience. Turns out I’m ok in a crisis. Turns out I have some simply amazing people in my life. Turns out I’m not perfect. Turns out being strong and just gritting my teeth and bearing stuff is rarely the best solution. Turns out I need sleep, nutrition, a place to rest and to be seen and heard well by those around me, just like everyone else. Turns out I make bad decisions. Turns out I make really good ones too. Turns out I have very little control over life circumstance, but I can choose how to respond to what comes. Turns out humour is often effective.  Turns out having a good snotty cry can be too.

So after being buffeted and surprised by 2013, surely I ought to have some resolutions? Many Tweets, newspaper stories & TV adverts point me toward this as being a necessity. Surely now I ought to be putting some methods in place to ensure the errors of the last year do not follow me into the next? Set intentions of self improvement which will make me a better, more lean and likable human person, more successful and lucky and wise?

Well, perhaps…. but what it seems to come down to is this: I’m not actually that keen on myself when I’m resolute. That is when I am at my most inflexible. It suits me fine to be willful, determined, stubborn and resolved when I’m competing or exercising… the rest of the time? Not so much.

So perhaps there is another way?

I don’t actually believe that a date heralding the beginning of a new set of numbers will in any way shape or form alter my reality.

I believe my daily choices and responses to life will.

I wonder what you think?

with thanks to whoever came up with this image which I have “borrowed” from a google search.

December 17, 2013 / Julie@fuchsiablue

The Nurse will lead you now….

20131217-064726.jpgSo the last few days have been a lot about hospitals and medical/surgical type information. (See here for previous post) And one of the things I have been reflecting on is this:

My first HR director was an ex nurse. She says her time Nursing was the best possible preparation for life – both Corporate and Personal – I’d forgotten she said that, yet, having chatted to the nursing staff and watched things over the past days, I’d say she was really on to something.
Nurses have excellent leadership credentials:

They must be rigorous in the routine, but able to drop all of that in order to respond to the unexpected.

They deal with grief, relief and unreasonable people.

They deal with a variety of human fluids and functions that many find distasteful – but they rise above the distaste, as that is what is necessary in order to move things from a state of illness to health – and in the end, there are only so many forms sh*t can take.

They learn to operate effectively in a hierarchy and speak up in the face of those awarded Power through their job title and status.

They work very very closely with the people around them – camaraderie, trust and communication are key.

They seem to dodge gossip, start it, or plug into it when it’s useful…. And fundamentally they seem to hold an understanding that people, particularly people in crisis, irrespective of who they or others think they are, are remarkably the same and need to be talked to. A lot.

They are under constant scrutiny, (from immediate care users, to the Managers, to the media and the politicians) yet they are not paralysed by indecision.

They conduct themselves with humour, professionalism, tenacity and empathy.

They translate REALLY complicated, jargon-filled tech-speak into simple, straightforward information.

They are not motivated by money, greed or big cars.

Perhaps many of us could do with lessons in nursing.
I can see a strong case for a model of nurse-as-leader.

 

On behalf of my family & friends, an enormous and deep thanks to the A&E, HDU and Ward staff at Kirkcaldy Victoria hospital and to the Nursing and care Staff at Lunardi Court Care Home in Cupar who are a constant source of information, support and humour.

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